New Hope Baptist Church
Friday, January 18, 2019
a place to call home


Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church…Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

Ephesians 5:22-33

Clearly the Biblical portrayal of male headship rules out any charge of tyrannical oppression or blind following. The husband laying down his life for his wife and the wife willingly following her husband are beautiful portrayals of love in service as two humans come together to make one to the glory of God. This laying aside of selfish gain and oppressive control show us 2 things, first, the husband is to be a leader, a man determined to make the best decisions for his family in order to see his wife maximize her potential in the gifts God has given her. Second, we see that the wife is to be the helper to her husband as she encourages and inspires him to be the best leader he is capable of being.

Yet this “mystery” is that of our relationship to God as his church. As Christ came to serve humanity and to build up his church, he sought to equip us to utilize our gifts in a way that would serve one another. As the husband is the leader in the marriage covenant, so it is that Christ is the leader of the covenant that God makes with us in the church. Which should be both humbling and an honor for us who are husbands; because in the Gospels we see a serving Savior who cared so much about his people that he willingly gave up his life for them. And as the wife is the helper to the husband we see that Christ calls his bride, the church, to choose him, to prefer him above all things. That means for you wives that your husband is to be your favorite; you represent him to the world and it is he that you seek to serve. Yet this doesn't come by force or coercion but rather a choice, for in submission there is a choice to lovingly say, “I will serve you.” And that is the choice God gives us as he lets us willingly choose him for where there is force there is no love.

Marriage, it is the greatest of all relationships and is by far the most sacred. The reason for marriage being sanctimonious is that it is a direct reflection of God’s love for humanity and how he works in relationship to us, his beloved. So let us view marriage as God views it, a representation of two people seeking the best for one another, i.e., the church seeking to serve Christ, our great Bridegroom preparing a wedding feast for us.